Originally published on Dr. Z's Two Cents, September 15, 2025.
Hello, Curious Reader!
In this edition of Dr. Z's Two Cents, we embark on a journey into what it means to me as a deeply feeling being, to show up as an empathetic, intuitive, and attuned human in the year 2025.
All the while NOT being absolutely emotionally destroyed in the process.
Let me rewind a bit to provide some context; because in case you were not aware and/or do not like it, context is as decisive as it is subjective, relatively speaking, anyway.
Throughout my initial posts, I have introduced you to some important supporting humans in the story of my life.
I ALSO introduced you to #FGOs. Anyone remember what FGOs are...?
<enter my own enthusiastic internal shouting here>
F**king Growth Opportunities!
FGOs create space for expansion, context emerging, and illusions breaking...which, by personal experience, is often grounds for my own humbling.
I am in the process of reconnecting with myself after being aggressively humbled emotionally leading up to last week's brilliant full moon. What a time for divine release, eh?
Side note! Have I mentioned how much I love (AKA am fascinated by and enjoy discussing) the moon, stars, astronomy, etc.? No? Ah! Well, stay tuned for a post on all of that!
Anyway...where was I?
Ah, yes; the myriad of feelings which tumbled into my life via verbal grenade and gale force winds on 9/6/25.
The sudden emergence of those f**king feelings catapulted me headfirst into a twister of emotional dysregulation, for which I was most certainly unprepared.
*EW, David!* [if you know Schitt's Creek, you get it, and I appreciate you that much more]
But alas, I digress.
Mini-lesson on emotions incoming!
Emotions are energy in motion.
When whatever *feeling* eventually cracks the surface of our consciousness, it sometimes becomes so physically uncomfortable that we show it!
[feel free to clutch your pearls (real or proverbial) here as needed]
We all show our emotions differently...via tears, with words, through silence, distance, distractions, and other "socially acceptable" means, including addictions and other social maladies, plus many more.
As humans, the collective we, have gotten really good at not actually feeling our feelings, but rather putting our precious energy into understanding why someone (definitely not me <wink>) might be struggling with the sudden emergence of feelings (intellectualizing them) versus actively engaging with them.
Our emotions are messengers.
We get to be intentional about slowing down to create about what they represent.
Creation begets movement, and vice versa.
Movement allows our emotions to visit.
Stagnancy invites those same emotional visitors to become permanent fixtures in our
beautifully complex minds, often disrupting our own quality of life along with the lives of those who love us.
[IMAGE FROM ORIGINAL POST]
Call to Action!
Please, please, please...practice being bad at feeling your f**king feelings.
Summon your innermost courage, breathe in the flowers, and blow out the candles, knowing that you will survive the incoming physical and emotional ick.
Will it suck? Abso-fucking-lutely; if it doesn't, you didn't do it right.
How much it sucks and how long it sucks for is in the eye of the feeler (see what I did there)!? In case it isn't obvious, YOU are the feeler.
We feel by allowing ourselves to engage in something active; whether it be writing (pen to paper in particular), talking it out, singing to yourself/your people/your pets, dancing in your living space, creating in some way, without being critical of how or what we create.
The best place to start is by creating space (emotionally, figuratively, literally, etc.) for your feelings to exist outside of your physical body.
You also deserve access to and support from tangible resources to help you navigate emotional messengers, inherent to the experience of being human.
If you are interested in a FREE pdf to help you explore your own self care style to support your processing of life stuff, check out the Resources section of my website rzlcsw.net for Self Care A-Z by Dr. Z, available 9/15/2025.
Thank you for sharing your time and energy with me, dear readers...until next time!
In gratitude and solidarity,
Dr. Z
P.S. I am also wishing my paternal grandmother many happy returns of the day on her 107th birthday in heaven. It's an honor to be your granddaughter.